This is such an eye opener for me, in that I get to see these aspects in myself and how I have played these roles of seeking validation outside of myself due to my insecurities and loneliness. This is an endless pit of need, which leads to endless suffering, poor choices and massive energy leaks. Becoming prey to situations by giving away my power and lack of belief in myself. Can any of you relate to this? At the end of the day, if the person, place or thing doesn’t feel good… then it is a no in that moment. Feelings can also change, and maybe you will feel differently a day later.
And here is the great news, once we see all of this about ourselves, there is light at the end of the tunnel, and there are huge possibilities of creating healthy attachments to amazing people who add energy and vitality to your life. I’m sure you have a few of those in your life. These are the individuals with whom you feel at home, and when the visit is over, you feel inspired and full of gratitude that you got to spend time with them. You feel like a better person, as they bring out the best in you and you to them. So when I really stepped up and took responsibility for my life, some friends fell away and new ones came in. It’s all about vibration. If you want to see where you are at vibrationally, take a look at who you spend your time with. Take a look or feel of how it feels in your body when you are around others. Are you in a constant state of being triggered? Annoyed? Frustrated? Or are you in a grounded, loving place in full acceptance of what is? Do you feel at home in your body?
I have to share about two amazing individuals that I was able to really feel healthy attachments to, particularly in the male department. I have been blessed to have incredible female friends/sisters. When I signed up for a Unity Craft high dose mushroom experience, it was with a man named Greg. I was grateful, as I wanted to have a very vulnerable experience with a healthy masculine. During this experienced I welcomed in Greg’s healthy masculine energy into my heart, and I feel that this planted a seed to attracted this healthy vibration attachment down the road. With Greg, I felt supported, cared for, seen and heard without judgement, which imprinted safety and security. The next amazing person whom I absolutely love and adore is my beloved brother Vinod. He is from India, and he stayed at my home for two months. We developed an incredible brother/sister attachment that I have never experienced before. Initially it was a bit bumpy for me to trust fully, as I was suspicious. However, I trusted like never before — and wow, did I ever get the most profound gift of relating to a man. It is possible to have this type of relationship with a man, built on trust, love, support, unconditional love and respect. He is now back in India, and we message pretty much daily, and it’s such a joy to hear from him and his beautiful family. I missed him dearly when he left, I felt very sad, and at the same time, my heart was filled with gratitude for having this experience with him. This is just the beginning of creating an even deeper connection in a expansive way. The time I got to spend with him was so additive in that I felt even better after our interactions. A beautiful flow of energy that enhances both of our lives. This is what healthy attachments and relating is all about. Love is not self-serving or taking. It is about giving authentically without expecting anything in return.